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Why Parents Need to Talk to Their Children About Sexuality

Human sexual development is an ongoing process that starts in early infancy and continues through adolescence and adulthood. Infants and toddlers learn about sexuality both verbally, through the language used to communicate with them, and physically, from the touch they receive in the form of affection and play from primary caregivers, which can include parents, educators, and health care professionals. Young children also experience sexual development as they adopt gender roles, and develop relationships and trust through interaction with primary caregivers.

As the main sexual health educators of children, it becomes the responsibility of parents to communicate with children so that they have access to correct information and can make healthy choices during development. Having access to information about topics of sexuality which address a broad range of topics that include anatomy and physiology, sexual development, reproductive health, interpersonal relationships, affection, intimacy, body image, gender roles, and values and beliefs can allow young people to better protect themselves from harm, infection, and abuse. Additionally, knowledge about sexuality prevents young people from experiencing feelings of shame, guilt or fear and better prepares them to have healthy and successful social relationships.

Discussing topics of sexual health with children is also important because it builds trust with parents, allows children to develop the confidence to talk to adults about their sexual development, and provides parents with the opportunity to express their values and beliefs to children. Beyond improving the relationship between caregivers and children, discussing topics of sexuality also allows children to become comfortable with their own bodies. Children, who are comfortable with their own bodies, will also find it easier to safeguard their health. The result is more confidence to discuss any problems or concerns they may experience through development. Moreover, confident children will develop into young adults, who will be able to take better care of their bodies by seeking help from healthcare professionals if they are experiencing any problems. Ultimately having knowledge of their body and being able to talk openly about it allows young people to feel better about themselves and lead healthier, safer lives.